Friday, January 18, 2008

Making Your Ex Lover Jealous

This is one break-up mistake that many of us make and there have been a few relationship experts out there who have encouraged people to do this. Get a new lover and flaunt your new love in your ex’s face and he or she will come running back to you. Perhaps this premise sounds realistic, but I don’t think so.

Firstly, you are essentially using the new person to make your ex jealous and if they have half a brain, they will realize this and dump you like a hot potato. Your ex will also see that you are in-fact using this person to make them jealous and their opinion of you will take a serious dive.

Secondly, they may ask you to come back, out of simple insecurity with themselves, and to see if the other person was indeed serious competition. When they realize this is not the case, you will be right back where you started.

Lastly, they may believe that you are not available and could surmise that they should move on, and perhaps find themselves a new lover. If they were having doubts about whether they should have ended the relationship, well they will not be second guessing themselves now.

You want to get back with your ex lover and sometimes those feelings of rejection, hurt, anger and sadness can push us to do some crazy things. Our emotions take over and we feel torn inside out and we will sometimes do desperate things. Attempting to make your ex jealous is not going to bring their love back. It will push their love away. Beside you do not want your ex to be feeling jealous. Jealousy can be a very destructive and dangerous emotion and can lead to feelings of resentment, which will not help you in your quest to win back your lover.

If your ex sees that you are trying to make them jealous, they may also feel that you are trying to manipulate them or control them and this will definitely not help the situation. No-one wants to be controlled, humans want a freedom of choice and you want your ex to feel free to choose to be with you once again.

Get a hold of a decent relationship rescue book such as the one below and read my blog post about No Contact; this is a proven technique that has worked for many people who are trying to re-kindle their relationship or marriage.

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